Digging Deeper Into Fear
Fear of the past: Old trauma holds many of us back from enjoying life. Worrying about the past and dragging unfulfilling baggage forward, stifles potential. Remember report card day? The fear of being grounded for bad grades. Your first date? If it didn’t go well, the next date never happened. Unjustified punishments? So traumatized you’re fearful of trying new things. And the fear of rejection or failure because someone judged you in the past … you get the point.
We are not our past, and all of us make mistakes! When we learn from our mistakes and accept the past, we can love and forgive ourselves. Likewise, by learning from others’ mistakes, and the harm they have done to us, we can forgive. Compost those old scripts and embrace the good memories; for what we feed grows.
Fear of the present: How does it make you feel when you listen to the news; nasty politics, climate change, war, crimes against humanity, job instability, racial tension, etc.?
Rather than wallow in worry, when we take action and choose the emotions of love, compassion and gratitude we can ease the pain and conquer fear. A shield of love is stronger than a shield of armor.
How do you feel when you are judged, or someone doubts your ability? Why do so many people question themselves, that they think they are not good enough, or doing enough? Could it be that our competitive way of life sets us up to live in fear and to doubt ourselves? Does it have to be that way?
Accepting you’re good enough helps win the war against doubt. Stay away from those who doubt you; embrace the ones who love and challenge you. You know who they are. They are the people who want you to live the life of your dreams. Avoid unnecessary fear by living like the future matters.
Fear of the future: All we have is this moment. If you are not on death row, or on your death bed, why be fearful of the future? There are plenty of things that could happen to us that are frightening to think about. Your partner might decide to leave you. You could get in a car wreck. Something else could happen to a loved one. You could get robbed, raped, or worse. The list goes on. You might even be afraid of success!
The fear of what might happen cause’s anxiety and doubt. And yet all these things MIGHT NOT happen. And if any of them does happen; when you love yourself, you are more resilient.
The faster you take care of a wound the sooner it will heal.